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Cage the Rage

We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.  “You canโ€™t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light. Shannon L. Alder.

Anger is akin to picking hot coal with hopes to aim at your opponent but it’s you who get burned instead. 

Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion โ€” but it’s important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

Anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can’t get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.

In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything โ€” and allow others involved in the situation to do the same

As soon as you’re thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

Timeouts aren’t just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what’s ahead without getting irritated or angry

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child’s messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening โ€” or agree to eat on your own a few times a week

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