Failure is part of life, it is as old as success itself and it is mostly unplanned for unlike success which people consciously take calculated measures towards achieving it. Failure in most cases is usually unacceptable and does a one’s mental health. This is particularly as result of considering all the resources invested into the project that went to drain. Worthy of note is, most of this resources are not tangible or what money can buy such as: time, dedication, trust, love etc. Hence, overcoming failure is quite demanding but what makes the whole difference between and success is resilience, the courage to pick up one’s pieces and retry yet again even better.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” -J.K. Rowling
1. Accept The Failed State: It is almost impossible not to be afraid after a bad unexpected circumstance. Yet, this does not imply you ought to nurse it. The essential thing to do after a failure at anything is to, accept it and come to terms with it. Never let success get to your head; never let failure get to your heart.”- Anonymous. This means however painful the failed state, project and more had left you do not build for it a palace. Accept you failed with denial or hidden emotions but do not let it define your person.
2. Take Full Responsibility: When I fail at something, I already settle within that it is unwise to apportion blames on others and how differently they should have done things. I own up and take complete responsibility. I am usually trying to be as accountable for my decisions as possible. When I do this it helps me stay open-minded as I weigh as many options as comes to mind. This approach will help anyone to get off from the past event and focus on the future. You have to get up, gather your broken pieces and start again.
3. Analyse what led to it: One thing is certain, failure does not just happen there must have been a reason I did not take cognizance of while pursuing my goal. So carefully, I sit back and analyze what led to it. I attempt to gain insight into what went wrong and where it did, doing this gives me a door to seeing my mistakes and an insight on a whole new approach. Now, though still pissed, my confidence is sparked and I slowly bounce back and begin more confidently.
4. Learn From the Mistakes: Finding or realizing your mistakes is paramount ffor learning. you cannot do the same thing the same way and expect change, this is why you will have to learn. I know when I am hit by failure there is usually something I can learn if I analyzed the episodes close enough as any mistakes, I do not learn from or take seriously is most likely to repeat.
5) Focus on your Strength: Here is usually the hard part, I will say easier said than done. It takes courage to never relent or still believe “You Can” after a failure. Yet. it is important to eliminate all fears that may ruminate your mind into thinking you will fail at it again and believe in yourself. “The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.” -Barack Obama. Obama’s quote there says it all. Will you choose to be shamed or rather persevere? I know too well, what I will choose.
6.) Refire: Just as the word implies, you need to pull the trigger of your well loaded gun. Sometimes you need to fail to come forth stronger. All you need do is rebuild yourself and embark on your success journey again. Take charge of your downtrodden state and get motivated to chase your goals. Use failure to take a fresh start, make a new beginning and a fiercer impart.